- Take detours in your stride. Adetour simply means another route. It should never mean surrendering the goal.
- Get a clear fix on where you want to go. Create an image of yourself ten years from now.
- Surrender yourself to your desires. Set goals to get more energy. Set goal to ger things done. Set goals and discover the real enjoyment of living.
- Let your major goal be your automatic pilot. When you let your goal absorb you, you’ll find yourself making the right decisions to reach your goal.
- Build thirty-day goals. Day -by-day effort pays off.
Age excusitis, the failure disease of never being the right age, comes in two easily identifiable forms: the “I’m too old” vatiety and the “I’m too young”brand.
You’ve heard hundreds of people of all ages explain their mediocre perormance in life something like ihis: “I’m too old (or too young)to bread in now. I can’t do what I want to do or am capable of doing because of my age handicap.” Really, it’s surprising how few people feel they are “just right” age-wise. And it’s unfortunate. This excuse has closed the door of real opportunity to thousnads of individuals. They think their age is wrong, so they don’t even bother try.
The “I’m too old” variety is the most common form of age excusitis. This disease is spread in subtle ways. TV fiction is prodeced about the big executive who lost his job because of a merger and can’t find another because he’s too old. Mr Executive looks for months to find another job, but he can’t, and in the end, after contemplating suicide for a while, he decides to rationalize that it’s nice to be on the shelf.
Plays and magazine articles on the topic “Why You Are Washed Up at 40” are popular, not because they represint true facts, but because they appeal to many worried minds looking for an excuse.
Professor Erwin H. Schell, one of America’s most respected authorities on leadership, says, “Obviously, there is something more than facilities and competence that makes for accomplishment. I have come to believe that this linkage factor, this catalyst, if you will, can be defined in a single word attitude. When our attitude is right, our abilities reach a maximum of effectiveness and good results inevitably follow.”
Attitudes do make the difference. Salesmen with the right attitude beat their quotas; students with the right attitude make As; right attitudes pave the way to really happy married life. Right attitudes make you effective in dealing with people, enable you to develop as a leader. Right attitudes win for you in every situation.
Grow these three attitudes. Make them your allies in every you do.
- Grow the attitude of I’m activated.
- Grow the attitude of You are important.
- Grow the attitude of Service first.
When you practice this principle, you’ll find that both your respect for yourself and the respect of others for you will zoom upward. And you’ll find you’re actually ahead money wise when you pay twice as much and buy half as many because:
- Your garments will last more than twice as long because they are more than twice as good, and as a rule they will show “quality” as long as they last.
- What you buy will stay in style longer. Better clothing always does.
- You’ll get better advice. Merchants selling $200 suits are usually much more interested in help you find the garment that is “just right” for you than are merchants selling $100 suits.
You are what you think you are. If your appearance makes you think you’re inferior, you are inferior. If it makes you chink small, you are small. Look your best and you will think and act your best.
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Five ways to develop the Big Think.
- Don’t sell yourself short. Conquer the crime of self deprecation. Concentrate on your assets. You’re better than you think your are.
- Use the big thinker’s vocabulary. Use big, bright, cheerful words. Use words that promise victory, hope, happiness, pleasure; avoid words that create unpleasant images of failure, defeat, grief.
- Stretch your vision. See what can be, not just what is. Practice adding value to things, to people, and to yourself.
- Get the big view of your job. Think, really think your present job is important. That next promotion depends mostly on how you think toward your present job.
- Think above trivial thins. Focus your attention on big objectives. Before getting involved in a petty matter, ask yourself, “Is it really important?”
Grow big by thinking big!
Here are four ways to help you develop a big thinker’s vocabulary.
- Use big, positive, cheerful words and phrases to describe how you feel. When someone asks, “How do you feel today?” and you respond with an “I’m tired (I have a headache, I wish it were Saturday, I don’t feel so good)”, you actually make yourself feel worse. Practice this:it’s a very simple point, but it has tremendous power. Every time someone asks you, “How are you?”or “How are you feeling today?” respond with a “Just wonderful thanks, and you?” or say “Great” or “Fine.” Say you feel wonderful at every possible opportunity, and you will begin to feel wonderful and bigger, too. Become known as a person who always feels great. It wins friends.
- Use Bright, cheerful, favorable words and phrases to describe other people. Make it a rule to have a big, positive word for all your friends and associates. When you and someone else are discussing an absent third party, be sure you compliment him big words and phrases like “He’s really a fine fellow.” “They tell me he’s working out wonderfully well.” Be extremely careful to avoid the petty cut him down language.Sooner or later third parties hear what’s been said, and then such talk only cuts you down.
- Use positive language to encourage others. Complement people personally at every opportunity, Everyone you know craves praise. Have a special good word for your wife or husband every day. Notice and compliment the people who work with you. Praise, sincerely administered, is a success tool. Use it! Use it again and again and again. Compliment people on their appearance, their work, their achievements, their families.
- Use positive words to outline plans to others. When people hear something like this: “Here is some good news. We face a genuine opportunity…….” their minds start to sparkle. But when they hear something like “Whether we like it or not, we’ve got a job to do,” the mind movie is dull and boring, and they react accordingly. Promise victory and watch eyes light up. Promise victory and win support. Build castles, don’t dig graves!
1. Online Dating Consultant
Dating consultants usually charge for their time. They help people create successful online dating profiles, source possible matches from outside the typical online channels, and offer a level of personalization that a site like Tinder can’t. Think you’ve got a knack for the match? This might be the business for you.
2. Sewing and Alteration specialist
People will always need clothing hemmed and buttons mended — and you could be the person to do it. If you love sewing, start by offering simple services like those mentioned above and expand your repertoire to dressmaking and design as you build a customer base and demand.
3. Resume Writer
Creating a resume, cover letter, and — when necessary — portfolio for a new job can be tough and time consuming. That’s why many people hire help. Assist clients with tailored resumes, beautifully edited cover letters, and carefully-crafted portfolios that make it impossible for employers to ignore.
Speak a foreign language? Start a translation service. Consider specializing in a specific genre of translation, like medical or financial translation, as you might be able to fill a niche need in your community.
5. Garden Designer
Many people have the willingness to do the dirty work in their backyards, but few have the know-how to complete the first part of this process — designing and planning the backyard space. Draw up the designs for your clients’ outdoor spaces and let them do the actual digging.
Mowing, tree-trimming, and seasonal decor are all neighborhood needs. If you have or can acquire the equipment, a landscaping business can be a lucrative affair.
- Isolate your fear. Pin it down. Determine exactly what you are afraid of.
- Then take action. There is some kind of action for any kind of fear.
And remember, hesitation only enlarges, magnifies the fear. Take action promptly. Be decisive. Much lack of self confidence can be traced directly to a mismanaged memory.
Your brain is very much like a bank. Every day you make thought deposits in your “mind bank.” These thought deposits grow and become your memory When you settle down to think or when you face a problem, in effect you say to your memory bank, “What do I already know about this?” Your memory bank automatically answers and supplies you with bits of information relating to this situation that you deposited on previous occasions. Your memory, then, is the basic supplier of raw material for your new thought.
- Keep your eyes focused on the big objective. Many times we’re like the salesman who, failing to make the sale, reports to his manager, “Yes, but I sure convinced the customer he was wrong.” In selling, the big objective is winning sales, not arguments. in marriage the big objective is peace, happiness, tranquillity not winning quarrels or saying “I could have told you so.”
In working with employees, the big objective is developing their full potential, not making issues out of their minor errors. In living with neighbors, the big objective is mutual respect and friendship not seeing if you can have their dog impounded because once in a while it barks at night. Paraphrasing some military lingo, it is much better to lose a battle and win the war than to win a battle and the war.
2. Ask “Is it really important?” Before becoming negatively excited, just ask yourself, “Is it important enough for me to get all worked up about?” There is no better way to avoid frustration over petty matters than to use this medicine. At least 90 percent of quarrels and feuds would never take place if we just faced troublesome situations with “Is this really important?”
3. Don’t fall into the triviality trap. In making speeches, solving problems, counseling employees, think of those things that really matter, things that make the difference. Don’t become submerged under surface issues. Concentrate on important things.